Platinum Rule 2.0

In HIMYM, Barney mentions the Golden Rule. Barney's take on it is "Love thy neighbor," which would lead into his Platinum Rule as "Never ever, ever, ever 'love' thy neighbor." His point was that one should never date someone seen on a regular basis, for example someone at the same workplace, a next door neighbor, etc. because such relationships never work out in the end and lead to never-ending suffering, as those involved would see each other constantly. Barney begins to outline the Platinum Rule in 8 steps as the group begins to recount on their past experiences against the Platinum Rule.

Platinum Rule

The eight steps of the process

1. Attraction
2. Bargaining
3. Submission
4. Perks
5. The Tipping Point
6. Purgatory
7. Confrontation
8. Fallout
   
9. Co-Existence - This step was suggested by Ted

Attraction:

For example, when someone new you met shares common interest with you, have a skill that you adores, or even personalities that you were searching for in your Mr/Ms. Right. haha. The attraction is instant and undeniable, well, for some cases. But you know better, you've probably seen or heard your friend made the same mistake b4, you smile smugly at them. But still, you think, "this is different, this rule doesn't apply one me, and that's... step 2 --- Bargaining.

Bargaining:

Then you think you're in crush with them, grow some fond for them, wanna stick with them... or maybe bold enough to confess your feelings... You think it will be OK. You'll think, "I just want to stick with him/her, if anything went all weird, I'll back off." .... But, that's what everyone thinks. And then along come step 3 --- Submission.

Submission:

Then you'll get closer with them, maybe lucky enough to go out for a date with them, and then you'll find that you both have feelings for each other... Then you'll think again, "I can get an upside for this. Like, maybe as a bf/gf, we can be happy together, study together, you gets rides to anywhere together, have meal together and so on.".... LOL XD. Of course there's an upside... at first... That's step 4 --- Perks.

Perks:

In the relationship, you can go to school together, you guys will always have a standing lunch date, get surprises from him/her. People around will see you guys as a sweet couple. That's what you thought... You think that everything's fine.... Which bring us to step 5 --- The Tipping Point

The Tipping Point:

And then, eventually, you'll find that him/her is not suits you, you starting to loose the fresh sweet feeling like b4... and then, the feeling of regret starts to bubbling up... Which bring us to step 6 --- Purgatory.

Purgatory:

You finally realise you've made a huge mistake and now you'll have to live with it...  And so, inevitably, you have to do the thing you've been dreading all along... A relationship-ectomy, a break up. And that's step 7 --- Confrontation.

Confrontation:

Now you want to talk to them about where this is goin, about how you feel and hope you guys can go back to just being friends... But in any other relationship, that would be it, end of story... BUT! because you'll have to see this person again, there's a step 8 --- Fallout.

Fallout:

Everything between you guys will be sad, awkward, or uncomfortable... You'll have want to avoid from seeing them. That's just no what you wanted...


Of course, this is just a reference from the tv series. The real world would be different. If everyone follow the rule, the human race will cease to exist. hahah... XD I mean, yes, chances are things aren't gonna be happily ever after, but there're odds out there with a million of ways where good chances are. But doesn't mean we're not gonna try, right? LOLs!XD


For Ted, as you can see on the list, he thinks that there's another step... He call it Co-existence, it's the moment that you'll realise that all the anger and resentment just isn't useful... And you'll start to let go of it.... And move on with you life, it just takes awhile~ ^^



p/s: for me, in addition between step 7 and 8, i hate those jerks that will come back and rub your face with how great that their doing... TeeHee! XD I'm just tired of calculus ony... XD