Sep 1, 2015

Chances

There are two kinds of people you may meet in your life, one that makes you oversensitive and insecure, one that makes feel secure and impervious to worries. But both kinds can equally not meant to be long last unless the universe mix in chemistry and timing in these collisions.

Jul 24, 2015

How to Let Go for Dummies


Step 1 - you have to accept


Step 2 - you have to accept


Step 3 - you have to accept


Step 4 - you have to accept 


Step 5 - you have to accept 


Step 6 - you have to accept 


Step 7 - you have to accept 


Step 8 - you have to accept 


Step 9 - you have to accept 


Step 10 - idiot, fucking accept it already.

Nov 20, 2013

The Reality and The Dream



To take the road less taken is stressful
To be able to stand your ground whist other brings you doubts
To be fully understanding of what you need
To be able not to follow where the society or the system wants you to go
To able to follow your heart, your instinct, and your passion

One wise friend once gave me an advice worthy to keep
A journalist
Chose the less profit
Against all odds
Just to be happy
To be able to follow the passion
Not to regret
Not to complain what that other road might make you dread
If even it leads to more downs and ups
At least its your passion that you're chasing
No one else to blame
As you chose the freedom to choose
And continue that path
Without regrets, dreads and complaint
That will slow you down

Thus
I must
Able to stand my ground
Able to understand what I need
Able to go where the system want me to
Able to follow my heart, my instinct, and my passion
Strive for a happier life
Strive to be own unique person
But to be realistic
But to be able to still stay in the wave

Better yet,
To keep a balance of
The reality and The dream

Mar 10, 2013

爱情中的意愿和纪律


    人是理性的动物,即使谈了恋爱还是理性的动物。人平时的理性不特别显著,恋爱时候的理性却特别不显著,结果就有人强调恋爱中疯狂的特质。

    恋爱中人不会完全失去理性,也不会听不到理性的声音,只是心里头的 “ 感性意愿 ” 比较遍布与昭彰,比如一旦 “ 喜欢 ” 的感觉出现,他就霸占整个心灵并且劲强大,即使清楚看到对方的缺点,还是按捺不住要谅解、喜欢对方而已。

    既然在爱情中理性并不完全被淹没,那么有理性来指导感性就是可能的。其实人们之所以说不可能,原因在于理性和感性的斗争总是理性输的次数较多,但那并不表示完全没有战胜的时候。由于理性的多次失守就把恋爱说成是绝对疯狂的,就连理性战斗感性的过程和价值也一并给否定掉,这显然不合理。一直渴望听到对方的声音,但又因为花了太多的电话费只好忍着到第二天才通电话,就显示了理性在起作用。从这些小例子就可看出,理性战胜感性是可能的,重点在于,有多少的成功要看战斗者是谁。十八岁的人控制冲动的功力当然会比二十八岁的人弱。不要因为很多人不成熟地谈恋爱就把恋爱说成是完全不理智的人类行为。

    感性之所以经常战胜理性的原因是因为感性的力量是很原始的、生理的,并且是不竭的,而理性是需要通过一段努力、思考和坚信才能强大。前者马上起作用,后者有一节由弱变强的过程和时间。当你想念一个人并同时有工作要做,那思念的感性力量会迅速渗透、刺激你的心,而 “ 需要按捺想念把眼前工作做好 ” 这理性的念头要起作用需要通过分析、明白和信念,它刺激的是你的脑。心的作用起于诱惑,脑的作用起于信念。思念的力量会叫你离开手头上的工作,马上飞到情人身边,而理性的信念会叫你控制着,把工作做完才去好好享受和情人一起的时光。

    理性能通过信念把感性的冲动放缓,这其中理性和感性会斗争,而通过对信念的把持将感性的行为就是纪律。理性的分析产生信念,信念是纪律的指导。由于感性冲动不停地干扰、怂恿心灵,而你总是有事要做,不可能每一次都通过思考去分析每一次的感性冲动有何不妥,那么你就必须靠信念。好好分析了一次,就把分析的结果提升为信念,并将之做为纪律指导。因此,好好分析一次 “ 礼物 ” 和 “ 爱意 ” 之间的关系,那么每一回浮现出要求对方送礼表示爱你的冲动时,就用 “ 送礼物表达爱的理由不成立 ” 这个分析结果为信念去抑制有关的冲动吧!

    爱情中确实有很多感性的冲动,但其中并非没有理性的成分。不要一味强调只带出部分事实的 “ 爱情是疯狂 ” 的说辞,也不要以 “ 爱情是疯狂的 ” 做为疯狂自己的托词,要明白需要纪律,才能够成熟地恋爱。自己缺乏纪律却翻过来说爱情是疯狂的,这其实犯了两个不足:一是缺乏健全的理性分析能力,一是分析了却不愿意根据分析结果纪律自己。

    人们往往看到自我纪律的艰苦斗争过程,却没有注意到成功自我纪律后的喜悦。思念一个人固然是苦的,但思念也有一个最艰苦的高峰期,纪律地挨过这个高峰期,心就会平静下来,其中的苦这时才会转化为丝丝的甜蜜。有的人思念一天就忍不住了,多一天就要开口骂人了,但其实只要在多忍耐几天,过了高峰期,就能尝到思念的甜蜜。如果不愿意自我纪律的多忍耐,你也就会每次和情人分离一天后就近乎发狂,那么爱情在你看来当然就是疯狂了。

    爱情有感性和理性的成分。感性产生意愿,理性酝酿信念,信念则是纪律的指导。只想跟意愿走是爱情的一个强势表现,但唯有愿意自我纪律,爱情才能够成熟。


取自于杜新宝作品 - 《恋爱二三事》

Mar 1, 2013

Conformity


When I'm in my uni life, 
I thought I am the one who's weird in the bunch.
But then 
when i spend my holiday back at home with my highschool besties.
I figured: 
we are f*cking awesome, 
and the uni bunch is really reallyyy weird...
Isit because of engineering students or just those few?
I really should have join those art courses instead of this...


"The term conformity is often used to indicate an agreement to the majority position, brought about either by a desire to 'fit in' or be liked (normative) or because of a desire to be correct (informational), or simply to conform to a social role (identification). "

 see at http://www.simplypsychology.org/conformity.html


See how conformity affects you, watch.

 

Feb 18, 2013

大地回春



农历新年假期过了,哇~ 超不舍的。在家里,温暖啊~ 一家人4个挤到一间房睡,虽然位子不多,但感觉很安稳 ^^

乘着这篇帖子,祝大家常年愉快,五福临门,心想事成,蛇年行大运! =D

写了这个“福”字,希望家里能五福临门 XD


放假了一个月的时间,要什么有什么,怎么舍得离开呢?拖拉的回到了大学。。。一切都得放快脚步的走,烦恼又多。

 唉~ 有时候,真的很想一个人跑去异国半工旅行,一个人放慢脚步的走,没烦恼。。。


回来的第二天竟然闷到画了路飞的哭泣模样。其实说起来很怪,回来后,觉得有点参不进这里的朋友,怎么办?变生疏了。还有回来很烦很烦。太多事情了,别再给我烦恼了。。。

Feb 9, 2013

难听

“朱门酒肉臭,路有冻死骨” 

一家人开心就好,何必山珍海味。
不要浪费食物啊~ lol 


新年快乐 =P